前几天整理老照片，翻到一张泛黄的毕业照。那时候我们都还穿着宽大的校服，眼里憋着一股要闯遍天下的劲儿，互相拍着肩膀说：“以后要去大城市，要出人头地，谁也别回头看谁。”

如今再看这张照片，突然就笑了。原来人生这趟旅程，真应了那句老话：流水争先靠山海，落花归根是深情。我们当年拼了命想逃离的故乡，想摆脱的唠叨，最后都成了回不去的旧时光；而那些曾经以为遥不可及的“山海”，闯过了才懂，心里最软的地方，永远留给了归根的“落花”。

一、年少时，我们都想做奔涌的流水

十八岁那年，我和发小小琳坐在村口的老槐树下，对着奔流的河水发誓：“这辈子绝不留在小县城，要去看外面的山海，要活成别人羡慕的样子。”

那时候的我们，总觉得故乡是座“围城”，困住了我们的梦想。嫌弃爸妈管得宽，嫌弃小镇的节奏慢，嫌弃身边的人没有“上进心”。每天背着书包路过村口的小河，都觉得这水太缓，缓得让人心里发慌，恨不得立刻变成奔涌的流水，冲过崇山峻岭，奔向辽阔大海。

为了“争先”，我们拼命学习，考上了外地的大学。拿到录取通知书那天，爸妈比我还激动，妈连夜给我收拾行李，往包里塞了又塞：“到了那边好好吃饭，别不舍得；受了委屈就打电话，家里永远是你的后盾；没事别总熬夜，对身体不好……”

那时候我嫌她啰嗦，一把拉过行李箱，头也不回地说：“知道了知道了，我都这么大了，你就别操心了。”

现在想想，那时候的我们，就像村口那条小河里的流水，一心想着向前冲，想着越过障碍，想着去更大的世界看看。我们以为“争先”是人生的全部意义，却忘了流水之所以能奔涌，靠的是山海的包容；而我们之所以能勇敢闯荡，靠的是家人的深情。

刚到大城市的第一年，一切都新鲜又艰难。挤早高峰的地铁，吃廉价的快餐，加班到深夜看着空无一人的街道，偶尔生病独自去医院，那种孤独感，像潮水一样把人淹没。

那时候，我最想念的，不是大城市的繁华，而是家里的热乎饭，是妈一句“回来吧，家里有饭吃”，是爸默默塞给我的零花钱。

我开始明白，那些我们当年拼命想逃离的“琐碎”，其实是支撑我们走过风雨的底气。就像流水需要山海的滋养，我们在外打拼的每一步，都藏着家人默默的付出。

二、长大后，才懂归根是最暖的深情

去年夏天，我因为长期加班，突然晕倒在公司。醒来时，已经躺在医院的病床上，爸妈就守在床边，眼睛熬得通红。

妈拉着我的手，一边抹眼泪一边说：“早跟你说别太累了，你就是不听。钱赚多少是够啊，身体才是最重要的。”

爸站在一旁，沉默着，却悄悄往我枕头下塞了一张银行卡，低声说：“不够用就说，别硬扛。家里一切都好，你安心养病。”

那一刻，我看着他们鬓角的白发，看着他们略显佝偻的背影，突然泪崩了。

原来，我们在外争强好胜，拼命成为“流水”，跨越山海，闯出名堂，最终的目的，不过是让家人过上好日子。可当我们真正累了、病了、倦了，能给我们兜底的，永远是那个叫做“家”的地方；能无条件接纳我们的，永远是那些深爱我们的家人。

从那以后，我开始放慢脚步，不再盲目追求“争先”，而是学会了“归根”。

每个月，我都会抽时间回家看看。不再是匆匆待几小时就走，而是陪爸妈吃一顿完整的晚饭，听妈唠叨家里的琐事，看爸坐在院子里抽烟聊天，帮他们做做饭，洗洗衣服，散散步。

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http://m.gngzkj.com/mnews/57061.shtml我们这一生，都在“向外走”和“往回走”之间徘徊。向外走，是为了梦想，为了成长，为了成为更好的自己；往回走，是为了初心，为了亲情，为了找回最真实的自己。
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http://m.youme512.com/mnews/49503.shtml还有她亲手做的腊肉，一样不落。她会一边往包里塞一边说：“这些都是家里的味道，你在外面吃不到。到了家赶紧吃，别放坏了。”

爸则会默默给我加满油箱，反复叮嘱：“开车慢点，注意安全；到了给我发个消息，别让我们担心。”

这时候我才发现，流水争先靠山海，是为了有能力守护身后的家；落花归根是深情，是因为家永远是最温暖的港湾。

三、人生最好的状态：闯过山海，不忘归根

前几天和小琳聊天，她现在是一家公司的部门主管，在外人眼里光鲜亮丽，可她却说：“我现在最想做的，就是回县城开一家小店，守着爸妈，过着慢日子。”

她说，当年我们都想做奔涌的流水，去征服山海，可走得越远，越发现，人生最珍贵的，不是站在多高的位置，而是身边有爱的人，有可以回去的家。

其实，人生就像村口那条小河。

小时候，我们盼着变成流水，越过障碍，奔向远方；长大后，我们变成了奔涌的流水，闯过崇山峻岭，看过世间繁华；而到了一定年纪，我们会变成“落花”，归根守土，回到最开始的地方。

流水争先靠山海，是我们对梦想的执着，是年轻人的热血与勇气；落花归根是深情，是我们对亲情的珍惜，是成年人的通透与温暖。

我们不必纠结“要不要争先”，也不必遗憾“要不要归根”。因为这两者从来不是对立的。

奔涌的流水，因为有山海的滋养，才能走得更远；归根的落花，因为有流水的奔赴，才更显深情。

就像我们的人生，向外闯，是为了给家人更好的生活；向内守，是为了不辜负家人的深情。

今年清明，我又回了一趟老家。站在村口的老槐树下，看着那条小河依旧奔流不息，看着远处的青山连绵起伏，突然觉得无比心安。

我知道，无论我走多远，无论我在外经历了什么，只要回头，就能看到家门口那盏亮着的灯，就能听到爸妈熟悉的唠叨。

那是流水奔涌的方向，也是落花归根的深情。

愿我们都能勇敢地做奔涌的流水，去征服属于自己的山海；也愿我们都能温柔地做归根的落花，永远守住心里最暖的家。